Many of the ‘secrets’ that you describe, once revealed to my family, have been ignored or invalidate as untrue…my mother, when she found I was queer, ignored if for almost a decade, saying it’s a ‘phase’...when I told her about my gender identity issues, she laughed…but with all of these matters made me promise not to tell the rest of the family…I’m not close to anyone in that group so it only irks me a little that they don’t know…in terms of cheating, I’ve done it, sure, had it done to me, yes…when I ‘strayed’, I told immediately and relationship would move on from there…I don’t keep many secrets, there are a few people in this world who know ALL of mine no matter how embarrassing…