Why am I afraid of change?

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Here’s a 20-minute video you might be interested in. It’s a talk on moral psychology and the differing genetic predispositions around the trait of “open-ness to experience” between liberals and conservatives: http://julianwalkeryoga.gaia.com/blog/2008/9/liberal_and_conservative_moral_psychology

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