Why am I so afraid of being alone, and what can I do to like myself more?

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answer:Seems like you amswered your own question, you need someone to validate your existence. Is that really it? Or, some psychology jargon that sounded good? Could it be you aren’t having a good time unless you are in social situations? Maybe a combination of both? Just to be sure I understand, you are talking about always needing an SO? Or, you hate to be alone period? You don’t like to live alone, go to dinner alone, go to the movies alone, etc.? I think it gets much easier to be alone as we get older, I don’t know how old you are, because we realize we are tired of compromising and want to do exactly what we want to do. That is what happened to me and most of my girlfriends.

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