Are you straight because I am gay? (Details inside)

Are you straight because I am gay? (Details inside)
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I remember the line in the movie The Hours where the author is being asked, but in your story why does someone have to die and she says “so the rest of us know how good we have it”. That does apply to your situation, no good or bad references insinuated but to say contrast and context are, well, just are.
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