What do you need to happen to deal with your childhood traumas?

What do you need to happen to deal with your childhood traumas?
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My personal ones? Hm… I think I’m pretty much over them, really. Edit: Hang on, there’s one thing that might count as a trauma that still gets in the way. I still sometimes feel intimidated by strangers for good no reason. (It’s one of those wrong and bothersome gut feelings I mentioned elsewhere. Not sure whether it’s really a trauma, quite possibly I was always that way.) In order to resolve that I would probably need to develop a better understanding what most people are like.
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