How do you deal with a break-up without losing your head?

How do you deal with a break-up without losing your head?
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I’ve always felt that you never really deal with it UNTIL you lose your head – you have to have that time where you allow yourself to be irrational and upset and angry and sad, where you eat a lot of ice cream and watch a lot of movies and tv, where you’re in a bad mood and can wallow and sort yourself out. After you get that out of your system, THAT’S when you can look at things clearly and get your head back on straight and deal with things. It’s definitely okay to take time to be upset.
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