If you found a person to be insecure, would you not want to have much to do with them?

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I am not attracted to insecurity in people – that being said, I am not going to judge them for it because I understand how difficult life can be. I do not steer clear of insecure people unless they’re compensating for their insecurities by being complete bat droppings. I do not limit my time with them unless I figure them to be people who are not actively working on getting rid of their insecurities (I like development in people, not stagnation). I do not, whatsoever, think that insecure people are any less intelligent or smart. That’s ridiculous. Oh and I do think we’re all insecure about something or other but for some people, their insecurity doesn’t rule their life – their confidence does.

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