Melancholy, stress, feeling insecure to be loved?

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answer:If the only people who could have relationships and be loved had to be perfect (whatever the bleeding sweet Toledo that means), the human race would disappear within two generations. The standard way of dealing with long-term melancholia, stress and insecurity is to see a therapist and talk things through.

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