Isn't it good to ignore the "be yourself" mantra if yourself is, in fact, horrid?

Isn't it good to ignore the "be yourself" mantra if yourself is, in fact, horrid?
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I think that “nasty” people are often just wounded people. As corny as it sounds, I believe that there is a good person in everyone. No mother looks into her babies eyes and says, “I hope you grow up to be a serial killer.” Somewhere along the line, the person was hurt and never learned to appropriately process it. Being your true best self is a good thing.
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