You could always say, “Make whatever plans you need to make to keep yourself happy, dear. Just don’t tell me about them. If you’re already planning to hang out with me next Tuesday, just call me Tuesday afternoon and we can discuss it then. Maybe I’ll be busy, but probably not, since I wouldn’t have planned anything else previously anyway.” As for the locale, I’d keep track and present it as a verifiable series of facts rather than an accusation. “The last ten times we’ve hung out, we’ve gone to places in your neighborhood. To even out the convenience, here, how about we go to this bar in my neighborhood for a change?” might work better than “We alwaaaaaays do what youuuuuu want to do!” I’m a planner. I’ll probably always be a planner. Many of my friends seem to be non-planners, and it drives me a little batty. But I can plan to be spontaneous for a given day, and that sometimes fills both of our kinds of needs, too.