Any shortcuts for grieving the loss of a friendship?

Any shortcuts for grieving the loss of a friendship?
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answer:This is so difficult, our culture really has no set up in place for the loss (whether through death or something as you described) of a friend. I have had this happen, and something that helped me was writing letters never to be sent. During the times I was angry at the person I would write mean stuff, clever nasty remarks, nasty statements about stupid things like personal hygiene. When I was just sad I’d write down my wallowing thoughts. Again, these things are for cathartic purposes only and should be destroyed right after. Then I would do something that has nothing to do with anything that reminded me of this person, yoga class or some such. I’m sorry you have to go through this, it’s painful and disturbing. Good luck!
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