answer:A combination of cognitive and mindfulness techniques can help. On the cognitive side, you learn how your obsession is no longer helping you. You learn the lessons from the experience, but you don’t have to keep going over and over it again looking for more. Mindfulness helps you let the thoughts go. You observe your thoughts without judging. You don’t get attached to them. You let them float on by without feeling like you have to do anything about them. Yoga and meditation and dancing and running can all help you do these things. Also it helps to go from blaming yourself to accepting that you do what you do. Don’t judge. It was, as they say AFGE (another fucking growth experience).