Have you ever stayed friends in this situation?

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Yes. And I am still friends with some of them. I know before doing something with someone if I can be friends [if they answer some of my questions and they are true when they reply]. I’m never sorry when a first romantic date goes wrong but I can spot a potential friend very good. And sometimes I might not be interested in being their friend but I don’t really know if I am suitable until I do it.

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