Was there ever a time in your life when you got burned (relationship wise)? Either from a work situation, personal situation, whatever?

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Yes. My last job. There was going to be redundancies, my bosses handed out letters to everyone, and we had to be reinterviewed for our jobs. I heard that the secretaries all got together and said they would all go down to 4 days, so that they wouldn’t get rid of anyone. I thought it was a good idea. I was Senior receptioinst with 2 others under me, I told them about this idea and suggested we dis the same. Obviously we would lose a days pay, but we would still have a job. They agreed. One of them though, in her interview, said she wouldn’t do because she couldn’t afford to lose money (she was 17), so they made me redundant, as I earned the most.

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