What's the most important item you've lost?

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Many things. When I was ten years old, I was sent to foster care with other siblings of mine. We were told we could only take two things from the home. That day, I was forced to part with many things of sentimental value to me. I remember the lie that we were going on a vacation quite clearly. I have come to terms with it, although I don’t think it’s fair. I don’t believe we should have ever been taken away. We were eventually returned to our parents, but my parents had to throw a lot of stuff out and they had to move if they wanted us back. I miss many things that are forever lost to me, but what can I do about it? In the end, my family is more important to me than materialistic things.

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