Why is it so comforting to talk at a gravesite to a lost loved one?

Why is it so comforting to talk at a gravesite to a lost loved one?
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I take comfort in talking to my Father who has passed, but i dont feel the need to do so at his gravesite. If he can hear me, he hears me wherever i am.
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