answer:I think it’s unfair to compare the woman on a yardstick of what you consider “normalcy”. That’s measuring her against your values and your yardstick. I see that is unfair. For whatever reason – and I am no shrink, so I can’t begin to explain why – her idea of normalcy is the way she has chosen to live for the the last 25 years. You may observe and disapprove, but this the lifestyle she has chosen and is used to – this is her normal. You and I don’t have to live it; we don’t have to approve of it, but it is her choice and her life. At some level, it’s somewhat arrogant of you to pass judgment on her. If she isn’t hurting you – and from what you wrote, she is not – then she, and every human, have the autonomy to live their own lives in the way they want to. If she wanted to change her comfort level and her definition of normal. I am confident that she could.