answer:Why is it so unacceptable to many when men dress this way? Is this your real question? It’s a very different one from what’s in your subject line. When we address people, we usually say “you,” not “she” or “he.” The gender of the pronoun kicks in when we talk about a person, which you don’t actually have to do. My understanding is that you use the pronoun that’s appropriate to the way the person self-identifies.