Our college aged daughter is struggling, what insight might you offer? (Details inside)

Our college aged daughter is struggling, what insight might you offer? (Details inside)
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You have to let your children grow up and make their own choices. You sound like you or your hubby might do better by backing off a little. She’s in college. She has to learn to make choices. Kids meet your expectations.
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