answer:I don’t associate with people who do things that hurt me. I encourage my children to do the same. If you are dealing with issues from your past that are painful, it’s often safe to work through these issues with a professional. Even the people who love you may have a difficult time dealing with this. It’s helpful to not expect them to handle this in any particular way. And in many cases, it’s best to set guidelines for what you expect when discussing such matters (“I just need you to listen.”, for example). Regarding this site you are visiting – if you find that you feel worse due to interactions there, it’s likely that you should stop.