answer:What you don’t have to do is take verbal abuse from this jerk. Tell him and her the next time he speaks to you like that, you are out of there. As to her hearing you, all you can do is say, “I think boyfriend (insert name) is having problems that are affecting you in negative ways. You need to take care of yourself before you can ever help him. If you decide you want help call this number (National domestic abuse hotline) 888–743-5754. Then you have to let it go. It’s up to her at that point.