She says she needs me, but it seems to be as in "I need thee every hour". How do I help with her separation anxiety/codependency?

She says she needs me, but it seems to be as in "I need thee every hour". How do I help with her separation anxiety/codependency?
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So, before your involvement, I gather she was your time spent with her has been simply thew mainly a recluse. Suppose you find a kid in the woods, and you give them shelter, food, and youtube. They will become completely absorbed in youtube. It sounds like so far your time spent with her has been simply the two of you. Even if you went to the movies together, there is no interaction with other people. She needs to go places with you where social interaction can happen. Not parties. Parties are frightening to people who are accustomed to being alone. A long line for concert tickets where you could strike conversations with others who are waiting maybe? Do you have a good circle of both male and female friends? If so, an informal get together, such as a paintball war, or a bbq at a park, or maybe a photography hike. Just find something informal, not crowded where the two of you can interact in a mixed crowd. Even working in a soup kitchen would be great. You should do something very soon, or the both of you will become too frustrated to save what you have. I love that you are willing to work through this discomfort in your relationship.
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