answer:OK… I speak as a step parent that was forced to take time when that was NOT the expectation or for the best of either me or the child, but it was just convenient to the parents. Your time is you time. Put limits on it. If you don’t value your time, no one else will. You want to see your grand kids, of course, but that doesn’t come at the cost of personal respect. You understand your daughter in law has goals and that is great, but you decide how you spend your time. You are a grown-ass woman. Do you thing to spend time with the kiddos, but set limits. The other grandma can decide to take the rest. The clearer you are with your limits, the clearer they have to be with their plans. No….‘I guess’.....