Is it possible to learn to be happy even when not everything in your life is OK?

Is it possible to learn to be happy even when not everything in your life is OK?
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I think the answer came to me by allowing situations to exist regardless of my attitude about them. It’s similar to accepting, but that requires work on my part. I have to do something to accept a given situation. When I allow something to exist just as it is, I release not only the situation but my need to have anything to do with the situation. I include my need to have an opinion about the situation in that “anything.” Allowing is a release. I not only release the situation. I also release my need to spend time thinking about it and making decisions about it. I also release myself. It gives me a great deal of freedom. Am I making sense? Accepting implies that I dislike something, but I consciously change my attitude to let it be as it is. Allowing releases me from the need to like or dislike. I might be conflating acceptance with tolerance here. I still feel that allowing releases me and gives me ease.
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