Do rude people get some kind of advantage for being rude?

Do rude people get some kind of advantage for being rude?
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Yes, it’s a self-reinforcing habit which generally has an easy short-term emotional payoff, and a much greater but less obvious (and harder to admit) long-term cost.
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