Parents - Have you given your children enough (see details)

Parents - Have you given your children enough (see details)
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Last Answer : answer:One must go with the gut feel on this one. The TV has its ratings scheme but most parents by default know their kids best. Err on the safe side I guess. If a parent is uncertain about ... follow I guess. Just the ability to adapt to present situations in your kid's life and growth process.