How would you feel/react if a family member/friend "came out" to you?

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This has actually happened to me a few years back now.It made absolutely no difference whatsoever in the way I percieved them.Other than to admire them for their courage.For him it was a big deal which he was quite stressed about.We have a good laugh about it now which is fine.

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