Who in the HELL created your inner tapes? You might feel worlds better if you confront them with this bullshit and place the blame – yes, there is DEFINITELY blame here – back on the person who actually deserves it. This inner dialog you have going on is incomprehensible. I have no idea how you’ve made it this far without being an extremely bitter and angry person. Put that shit back on the person to whom it belongs, and get rid of it. This burden is not yours to carry. they have definitely earned the right to hear it. To answer the question, I will always screw up. I’m human, so it’s a foregone conclusion. A healthy inner dialog might sound something like this: “Oh, shit. I have really stepped in it. I feel bad that I hurt someone. I feel angry at myself for the error, and I am not willing to go through feeling this way again. I’m learning from this one!” And then…..YOU LET IT GO. This is what you aim for, sweetie. Get that toxic CRAP up and out of you. It’s eating you alive from the inside.