Leaving what I know -- How do I get over my jitters?

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answer:Ooh, an adventure! You’ll never know if you don’t try. The coasts are more alike politically than you might think… the country is pretty darn liberal on both its edges. Even if you end up in an area where your views are in the minority, there are bound to be some people who share them. Heck, I’m about as liberal as they come, and I live in West Virginia! Anyway, people are people, no matter where they’re from… I promise we don’t bite. :) To calm your fears, try to remember that nearly everything you do can be undone if it turns out to have been a bad move for you. Good luck on your adventure!

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