What is the best way to get over an ex ?

What is the best way to get over an ex ?
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answer:Hey man, welcome to Fluther. I’m sorry to hear about this. I’ve found the best thing to do is to try to rediscover yourself apart from what your identity was in the relationship. Spend more time with friends that maybe you didn’t get to see that often. Pick up that old hobby that you didn’t used to have time for. Go to a concert or listen to music that your girlfriend didn’t like. Don’t burden yourself with painful memories. Remember what was good, and give the rest back to the universe. If you are really in a bad way and feel in need of a kick in the pants, watch this clip from Bored to Death. But be warned, it’s a doozie. This show helped me through a really rough breakup in college.
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