(My story) How should I deal with my husband's ex?

(My story) How should I deal with my husband's ex?
by

1 Answer

Answer :

I hope you have told all the things mentioned here to your husband also. If you haven’t then do it ASAP as he would know her better than you and understand your position. Also you don’t have to feel sorry about her a bit looking at the creepy ways she’s been following to harass you / paint you and your husband in a negative way in front of your friends and acquaintances. Don’t ever put your guard down even if she starts behaving nice with you. But most importantly keep your SO informed so that you both will be together in this!! Wish you best luck and peaceful life ahead..)
by

Related questions

Why does it bother me that my friend took her husband's name?

Description : Why does it bother me that my friend took her husband's name?

Last Answer : You mind because you like her. You shouldn’t mind because it’s her life (and her decisions), not yours. Try to be happy for her and move on.

Should I write a letter to my ex husbands father letting him know my ex stopped paying child support?

Description : Should I write a letter to my ex husbands father letting him know my ex stopped paying child support?

Last Answer : Oh wow. I mean it really can't hurt to make one attempt at civility, and perhaps the grandfather would want to know and even help your child on his son's behalf. I would be very careful in my ... see him instead, like for lunch or dinner. Your child shares his dna so it's definately worth a shot.

I found out my soon-to-be ex-husband's married girlfriend lied about filing for divorce. Should I tell him?

Description : I found out my soon-to-be ex-husband's married girlfriend lied about filing for divorce. Should I tell him?

Last Answer : No, don’t tell him. He either already knows, since he hasn’t moved in with her, or will find out eventually. If he finds out on his own, he can’t blame you for being the “bearer of bad news”. Welcome to Fluther and good luck.

My ex-husband's father died. Should I go to the funeral?

Description : My ex-husband's father died. Should I go to the funeral?

Last Answer : answer:Any acknowledgement will be appreciated. If you have the time to attend the funeral, then do so. Our ex-SIL attended our sister's memorial service, despite the divorce from our brother being ugly ... was when she was our sister'. Her gesture helped heal a long festering wound on all sides.

How To Get Back At My Ex-Best Friend?

Description : How To Get Back At My Ex-Best Friend?

Last Answer : Trying to get revenge is not a way to get closure; working on what happened and why with a counselor or therapist is. You have to figure out who and what you want to become.

Why does my family friend defend my rapist ex?

Description : Why does my family friend defend my rapist ex?

Last Answer : First let me say that I'm very sorry for how this woman has treated you. You don't deserve that. I understand this is your best friends mother, but all you can do is delete her from your life, from ... she was still liking and engaging with your ex. Put an end to it now. She is not your friend.

Need Objective advice on a Ex-best friend situation?

Description : Need Objective advice on a Ex-best friend situation?

Last Answer : answer:You kind of burnt your bridges when you told her you wished you'd never met her, etc. That right there is major drama. If you only lose two friends over this thing, you're fortunate. ... together, or something along that line. In other words, make your criticism be about you, not her.

Should I give my Ex-Best Friend a Chance?

Description : Should I give my Ex-Best Friend a Chance?

Last Answer : answer:Let her go. You don’t even go to the same school and when you get to college you will make so many strong lifelong friends. Elevate what you tolerate. Don’t stress about someone that drags you down over something that is none of their business, quite frankly. And welcome to Fluther!

Is it wrong to date a friend's ex?

Description : Is it wrong to date a friend's ex?

Last Answer : If you have to keep this from him then the short answer is yes it must be wrong. :(

What would you tell someone to try to help make them feel better if they were concerned and hearing that their ex is badmouthing them?

Description : What would you tell someone to try to help make them feel better if they were concerned and hearing that their ex is badmouthing them?

Last Answer : So sorry this is happening to your friend. This happened to my brother by his ex wife and I was absolutely furious! The lies she spewed were outrageous. I wanted to hurt her. But his clearer head ... his true friends won't believe the lies. Reassure him what a fine person you know him to be.

Are males or females more likely to remain friendly with an ex?

Description : Are males or females more likely to remain friendly with an ex?

Last Answer : I suspect it is temperament rather than gender that determines whether a person wants to remain friendly with an ex.

Friend of my ex bf sent me a friend request on FB... Should I message him explaining why I can't accept it or leave it?

Description : Friend of my ex bf sent me a friend request on FB... Should I message him explaining why I can't accept it or leave it?

Last Answer : There’s no right or wrong answer to this. Do what you feel you want to but if you feel that sending an explanation will get you re-involved in a way you don’t want to, then just ignore it.

Do you get along with your SO's ex?

Description : Do you get along with your SO's ex?

Last Answer : I have never met my current husband's ex- fiancée, so I don't know if I would like her or not. However, I do know my ex-husband's current wife and I like her a lot. In fact, as ... her. There's not much reason for us to talk, but we're Facebook friends and sometimes have brief conversations there.

Friends with benefits with an ex. Asking for trouble?

Description : Friends with benefits with an ex. Asking for trouble?

Last Answer : answer:Yes, it's messy. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to sleep with you and talk to you and limit who you can see but she doesn't want a relationship with you. But those demands on ... it boils down to. As you describe it, she is NOT your ex - and it this rate, won't be.

My ex boyfriend is being a little confusing (with teasing me playfully) can someone decipher whats going on?

Description : My ex boyfriend is being a little confusing (with teasing me playfully) can someone decipher whats going on?

Last Answer : answer:He's 17 or 18 years old and has no idea how to behave with a girl, so he is doing his best as he goes along. He was honest in his response, he probably felt way over his head when you ... to figure things out. So, sorry he isn't your boyfriend now, but let him learn how to act around girls.

Do you talk crap about your ex?

Description : Do you talk crap about your ex?

Last Answer : answer:No. Very rarely. Most of the women I have been with were great, I think of them fondly, even if it didn’t end well. When I catch myself doing it, I feel kind of small.

What is your opinion on dating an ex's friend? What about a friend's ex?

Description : What is your opinion on dating an ex's friend? What about a friend's ex?

Last Answer : There are millions of other people in the world. By getting mixed up with friend’s exes and exes friends you are just inviting bad feelings. Even if people tell you that it’s OK. It’s never really OK. It creates un-necessary drama and weird alliances.

Should I avoid my ex and his new SO at an event with our mutual friends?

Description : Should I avoid my ex and his new SO at an event with our mutual friends?

Last Answer : answer:Stay with your sister. Even though you two are not together, you still have two and a half years together and that is not going anywhere. You may not believe this, but at the convention you ... believe he brought her along just to spite you. This trip may have some personal feelings for you.

Is it ok to date or fool around with a friends ex?

Description : Is it ok to date or fool around with a friends ex?

Last Answer : Only the friend’s ex can answer that. If you and the ex are ok with – it is nobody else’s business.

Is it ok to start dating a friend of your ex boyfriends?

Description : Is it ok to start dating a friend of your ex boyfriends?

Last Answer : Yes, move on. Be with his friend, hopefully your ex would get jealous and felt the pain he gave you.

I have a reunion to attend next month, and my ex-best friend will be there. What's the best way to approach this?

Description : I have a reunion to attend next month, and my ex-best friend will be there. What's the best way to approach this?

Last Answer : Ignore, Ignore, Ignore. When that doesn’t work, like she comes up and starts making small talk, be civil and cool toned. Then back to Ignore, Ignore, Ignore.

My boyfriends ex girlfriend is creeping me on myspace and facebook. what do i do?

Description : My boyfriends ex girlfriend is creeping me on myspace and facebook. what do i do?

Last Answer : First block her from your profile if you haven't already, and then just ignore her. Don't stress the people that are just out to hurt you, it just gives them what they want, and it makes you ... if your dating him now, your probably i way better girlfriend than she was and she's just jealous!!.

Is it bad for "future girlfriends," to stay friends with an ex?

Description : Is it bad for "future girlfriends," to stay friends with an ex?

Last Answer : Dont worry about it.

(Follow up question to the contacting the ex question.) How much do I need to consider the feelings of his spouse in this situation?

Description : (Follow up question to the contacting the ex question.) How much do I need to consider the feelings of his spouse in this situation?

Last Answer : How would you feel if you were in her position?

When writing a story, do you have to add background to why something happened or can you simply put it into another whole book?

Description : When writing a story, do you have to add background to why something happened or can you simply put it into another whole book?

Last Answer : I don’t think you have to go into it in too much detail. Just a hint can create tension and make the reader curious enough to want to read on. You can explain more later as the story develops if you like, but you are in charge, it is your story and you can tell it any way you want.

What's your best story about Road Rage?

Description : What's your best story about Road Rage?

Last Answer : answer:Back in high school we were driving to our favorite spot to skateboard in downtown Eugene around 10pm on a Friday night. So we were about 12 blocks from our destination and at a light these hicks ... move on the cop mentioned a few of them had warrants and there were some guns in their truck.

What do you do when someone tells you the same story over and over?

Description : What do you do when someone tells you the same story over and over?

Last Answer : I slap them silly. ;)

Do you get in arguments with you friends? If so does it lead to fights? Please explain the story.

Description : Do you get in arguments with you friends? If so does it lead to fights? Please explain the story.

Last Answer : answer:Welcome to Fluther! No, we don't really argue with each other, we may disagree on some points. I think we're past the real arguing stage. We might have lively discussing, were we both (or a group of ... ve never been beat up by a friend. If you mean that in a literal way, as in a true fight.

When someone is telling you something, do you engage them in what they are saying? Or do you start your own similar story?

Description : When someone is telling you something, do you engage them in what they are saying? Or do you start your own similar story?

Last Answer : Both

Do you tell someone if they have sent you an untrue email story?

Description : Do you tell someone if they have sent you an untrue email story?

Last Answer : Only if I can prove that their story is not real. By going to snopes.com for example. But yes I sure do and I like others to do it for me as well!

How to deal with best friends who are moving away?

Description : How to deal with best friends who are moving away?

Last Answer : It took a while, but in at least some cases, I’ve kept in touch with people via regularly scheduled recurring Zoom meetings and/or some shared context or things we do together or talk about.

How do I deal with someone who is obsessed with me?

Description : How do I deal with someone who is obsessed with me?

Last Answer : What would have worked for me is if I had help finding someone else. You can sign your friend up on a dating site and help write the about me section. You can even pay the first months ... your friend that one day he/she will find someone more special than you and every thing will work out.

What is the professional way to deal with colleagues?

Description : What is the professional way to deal with colleagues?

Last Answer : As a Supervisor its not a good idea to mingle with the staff as they will see this as invasion of privacy in the workplace. Perhaps they can't be themselves with a Supervisor around. It ... in there conversations. Seek other Supervisors or management to mingle with, or leave the area to socialize.

How would you deal with a friend whose conversations with you make you feel like you're being interviewed?

Description : How would you deal with a friend whose conversations with you make you feel like you're being interviewed?

Last Answer : Is it possible to turn the conversation to her and say, “I’ve talked enough about me, i’d lie to hear what’s doing in your life?” I have a cousin who does the same thing so I’ll be following this.

How do you deal with a guy teasing you?

Description : How do you deal with a guy teasing you?

Last Answer : answer:I say “ok” or “ok whatever” or “oh come on, please?” I think you probably need to be more specific if you want us to understand your situation. Ages, your gender, relationship, context, why is this teasing?, more details, etc…

How to deal with a needy friend?

Description : How to deal with a needy friend?

Last Answer : answer:You need to be direct and set a boundary. Next time he texts, reply with I am sorry that I do not have time for a conversation. Please do not text me again unless I text you first. Then ... to emails. If he emails you asking why you are not responding, explain you do not have time to reply.

How should I deal with a jealous and negative friend?

Description : How should I deal with a jealous and negative friend?

Last Answer : answer:It's time to drop the friendship - too toxic. You can either send her a message of explanation, which would be the kind thing to do, or just unfriend and block her. Unless you think there is ... pleasant to you in person but nasty on social media is to tell her you are dropping her from them.

If you have ever known a chronic/habitual liar, how did you deal with it?

Description : If you have ever known a chronic/habitual liar, how did you deal with it?

Last Answer : Yup, He was an old coworker we were cross shifts ,started to be friends but he wouldn’t know the truth if it bit him on the ass, caught him in lies when there was absolutely no need to lie

How to deal with poor behaviour from two best friends?

Description : How to deal with poor behaviour from two best friends?

Last Answer : answer:“As I am in the midst of grief, I would like your opinion on how to confront them about this?” Obviously with additional drama. Grief + confronation = Drama in my book.

How do you deal with people that you simply can't criticize because they react so badly?

Description : How do you deal with people that you simply can't criticize because they react so badly?

Last Answer : You’ve really answered your own question. You don’t deal with them. As my old granny used to say, “Mind your own back yard.” ;-)

How do I deal with this "friend situation" with maturity?

Description : How do I deal with this "friend situation" with maturity?

Last Answer : Ah high school…(I hope anyway, maybe middle school?)...I’m sorry she’s dropped you for some new girl. Of course that hurts but you have to be the bigger and better person here and walk away. It’s clear your previous best friend is immature or she would value her friendships.

How do you deal with malicious people?

Description : How do you deal with malicious people?

Last Answer : Just let it go and move on. Focus on the things that matter. You're going to encounter plenty of people like that but who they are is on them, it's not about you unless you let it be. You ... yourself and do your thing, which considering you're in a happy place seems to be working out pretty well.

How can I deal with my alcoholic housemate?

Description : How can I deal with my alcoholic housemate?

Last Answer : answer:I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I've got friends and relatives who are alcoholics and two of my grandparents died from alcoholism. However, in my opinion it's not your business ... advertising for roommates on Craigslist, although I have not done that myself. Best of luck to you.

How do you deal with not liking the friend of a friend?

Description : How do you deal with not liking the friend of a friend?

Last Answer : answer:I would sit there and try to ignore them the best I could and wonder to myself how I like people so much that can actually like that jerk too. *It's strange sometimes how that works ... out on the other guy, or begin to look at yourself more closely. Usually dislike is unwelcomed reflection.

How do you deal with a friend that always wants to hang out and doesn't have a clue?

Description : How do you deal with a friend that always wants to hang out and doesn't have a clue?

Last Answer : I would sit down with him and be honest, exactly what you told us on here. Of course don’t be as blunt as that – but lay it down on him. He may not even know he is being like this.

How do you deal with it when your best friend stops talking to you?

Description : How do you deal with it when your best friend stops talking to you?

Last Answer : answer:I be their best friend and let them have their time away from me, on their terms, not mine. And then I make some new friends.

Upon really stressful and overwhelming moments, how do you deal with living with and/or taking care of a close loved one who is sick and dying?

Description : Upon really stressful and overwhelming moments, how do you deal with living with and/or taking care of a close loved one who is sick and dying?

Last Answer : answer:Shortly before my surrogate Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV ovarian cancer, I'd moved in the house to stay for a bit while looking for a new apartment. Then she saw the doctor. She was in the ... so I just bucked up. It was only after she died that the full span of my grief was released.

How do you deal with moving?

Description : How do you deal with moving?

Last Answer : There is always a way to stay in touch with people.Moving for me had never been traumatic.

How to deal with a jealous friend?

Description : How to deal with a jealous friend?

Last Answer : If it was me, I would distance myself from the friendship for a while to give him a chance to get over me.

How to deal with loss?

Description : How to deal with loss?

Last Answer : answer:Grief takes time, my friend. There's an old saying which I've found to be 100% true when it comes to mourning: Time heals all wounds . It may take weeks or even months, but with each passing day, you'll ... to be sad and it's ok to cry, and as time passes, you'll be less sad, I promise :)