answer:Yes, it’s messy. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to sleep with you and talk to you and limit who you can see… but she doesn’t want a relationship with you. But those demands on her part are a relationship with you, whether you and she admit it or not. You are at a crossroads, as you have noted in the question. Do you move on with your life, or do you humor her? Because that’s what it boils down to. As you describe it, she is NOT your ex – and it this rate, won’t be.