I’m not a woman but I’ve been involved with a couple. It made me feel inadequate, like she didn’t believe in me, that I couldn’t step it up. Especially since I couldn’t force her to have it. The struggle for me the second time around was that it was agreed that would shoulder the burden and become parents, then her mind flipped. Totally screwed up my mindset, thats for sure. We’ve since then broken up. First time we aborted I remember we had broke up later on in the relationship, and I confessed I wanted it. She was pissed off, and told me she should have told me that, it would’ve changed everything. It was bs since it happened the second time and she went back on her word. Then she told herself a white lie and said, “If we ever had a 3rd pregnancy could we keep it?” It’s so stressful for me because I was ready to become a father and step it up, then it’s wiped away then its like whoa.