answer:No matter what, your home your rules. I understand the desire to keep the peace, also. She is the mom to two small children and should be setting a good example for them. She’s an adult and needs to do her share of the household chores to keep the home running smoothly. Period. If it were me, I’d probably create a schedule as to what I expected from everyone for each day of the week. That way, one person wouldn’t feel ganged up on. Further, that way you aren’t taking on all of the duties that your extended household is generating. Having a blended home isn’t easy, nor is a multi-generational one. I think it’d be best to takle this with a solution where every generation pitches in. Then, everyone will be able to reap the benefits. Many hands make light work. <———————This would be the title of my household routine/calendar/schedule (whatever you’d chose to call it)