answer:It probably was the truth when they said it (or at least for some of them). When you first start dating someone and fall for them, that initial flush of infatuation can feel (and perhaps is) very much like love. It is heady and passionate and thrilling. Whether that infatuation will grow and become a deep love is something you can’t tell until it happens. If it doesn’t happen, sometimes people look back and say ‘that wasn’t really love’. They may even say this to hurt you because the relationship you had has ended. I don’t know why, but some people can be cruel once a relationship is over. I think it would be a very rare person who is ‘unlovable’. I can’t think of a person I have met who I would describe in this way. Don’t let these disappointments make you lose faith in you. I don’t know you well but from what I have seen here, nothing about you suggests you are unlovable at all.