How to handle unwanted gifts (read details)?

How to handle unwanted gifts (read details)?
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Have a sit down (without your son present) and acknowledge her graciousness. And then lovingly tell her that where you come from unsolicited gifts carry an obligation that is more than her relationship with you, more than family obligation. And that while you appreciate it, any more gifts will go to help the poor (i.e., Goodwill).
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