How can names be so hurtful?

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answer:I absolutely hate name calling. You can swear ten times and raise your voice to me during an argument, but call me a name and I think it is horribly, inexcusably mean. I am not sure I would say I have been brought to a boiling point, but certainly very annoyed. My husband once in a while does some name calling. Nothing very sinister, but I hate when he does it, and I admit one of the things I hate most about it is if he is in the habit he might do it one time in front of others, and I would be mordified. I think when name calling really hits home to someones insecurity it really hurts them and brings up feeling from the past, can be as far back as childhood. Teen boys who are called sissy or faggot, and are actually gay, I think it makes them feel harrassed, bullied, and freightened. Young girls when teased about their looks, told they are ugly, fat, or that they are stupid, that can send them down a path of insecurity and low self esteem. Name calling has big consequences sometimes.

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