Have you ever been abused by a parent, and if so how do you learn to trust others again?

Have you ever been abused by a parent, and if so how do you learn to trust others again?
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answer:Have you seen a good therapist, someone you feel safe with whose intellect and insights you trust? I dealt with an issue (a subtle one) of parental abuse in therapy.
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