For those of you who have lost a parent (and your parents were together/married), when the one parent who's living first started dating again, how long was it before you were able to "deal with it"?

For those of you who have lost a parent (and your parents were together/married), when the one parent who's living first started dating again, how long was it before you were able to "deal with it"?
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My mom was 45 when my dad died. She is now 79 and never dated. I was very sorry for her that she didn’t go on to find love again, but she said my dad was the love of her life and she could never find that again.
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