answer:Not much anyone can do, other than let him suffer the consequences for his lackadaisical approach to life. If nobody continues to enable him, baby bird will learn to fly, or hit the ground. As long as others are bringing the worms to his nest he has no motivation to do anything. I think a “tough love” approach is all that can be done. Setting boundaries and following through with the consequences. The girl friend seems to be making noise, but noise making is not the same as taking action. The ” one more time you’re really gonna get“mantra that a lot of parents fall into using, but…the kiddies never DO, actually get “IT.” haha Part of all dysfunctional relationships involve constantly raising the bar but never lowering the boom.