How can I be helpful whilst retaining my own sanity?

How can I be helpful whilst retaining my own sanity?
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answer:As in previous discussions on this topic, my opinion is that you need to step back and let him learn how to manage his own affairs – especially considering your plans to move far away in the not-too-distant-future. So be there for him for emotional support and to offer guidance, but avoid doing things for him – as if you were already out of the country. This way he will not grow dependent on you the way he was with his father, because you know that will make your leaving that much more difficult for you both. You might consider searching for social resources for people in similar situations like your son – adults who for some reason are building or rebuilding their independence and could use some practical guidance and resources. We’ve also discussed making sure he’s getting mental-health services in dealing with his grief and this transitional time.
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