answer:I don’t like the word “expect” so much. I am not being critical of your word choice, I am just saying for me, I don’t expect anything, but I can tell you what does keep me feeling like I am still enjoyng my relation and life with my husband. Enjoying myself keeps things romantic in my mind. I like little surprises once in a while. It can be just a few times a year, abd better if it is not a special occassion, and it does not have to be something planned out by him. In fact, I don’t like a surprise that I am not ready for. Some examples are a surprise note that says very nice things about me or us. Out of nowhere him saying we should take a vacation (I do not want him to preplan the vacation and wisk me away). Bringing home something that he knows is a favorite for me, like my favorite chocolate or a bottle of sugar coca cola. Besides surprises, taking me places where we can dress up a little, an event of some sort (a wedding actually counts, even though he didn’t really plan it) really is a good thing. A special night out. It can be dancing, that makes me very happy, dancing does not have to be dressed up. Him wanting to be with me and share things with me. I love when he yells for me to come from the room I am in to see the funny show he is watching. When he wanted to take golf lesson, he wanted me to do it with him. He still grabs at me (sometimes annoying) and bothers me, pushing and poking, basically what I compare to a 10 year old boy who doesn’t know what to do with liking a girl so he punches her in the arm. LOL. Also, don’t let me get completely exhausted days and weeks on end. If I am overwhelmed help around the house or be ok with me getting help. Along with this, do not be overly critical of my housekeeping and organization. Want to kill my romantic or sexual desire, make some comment about how inadequate I am. Lastly, just a couple of weeks ago my husband drove down to visit his parents and sister, and by coincidence his brother was going to be there the first day my husband was there. So all five of them together (that is the entire nuclear family) and no spouses or any other extended family. He said to me he wished I was going with him when he was getting ready to leave to drive over and I told him how nice it will be that it is just his family all together. In an almost angry tone he stated “you’re my family!” Really nice hearing that. We have been married 20 years.