answer:I don’t have kids, but in my experience once children hit the age of 5 things get easier. My advice is if you want more than one, don’t have them too far apart. The first year is “the mother’s.” Not that the dad can’t help and partcipate, but especially if she is breastfeeding the mom usually is consumed with the baby. Then when a sibling comes in the next couple of years, the dad takes over with the toddler and the infant again is with the mother. That’s the usual routine. If you have inlaws and baby sitters that can afford you the time to pursue your own adult life outside of the kids then that’s great. The people I know who get to still go out a lot and pursue their interests, travel, and fun either had a mom-in-law they completely trusted who loved to take the kids, or they had a live in nanny. Since you rather stay in with your 2 year old I don’t see a problem, it doesn’t seem like you aren’t doing what you want to do. As your son becomes more independent you will evolve also and need more things to fill your own time, going back to previous interests and discovering new ones.