How should I deal with a jealous and negative friend?

How should I deal with a jealous and negative friend?
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answer:It’s time to drop the friendship – too toxic. You can either send her a message of explanation, which would be the kind thing to do, or just unfriend and block her. Unless you think there is a possibility that she could learn to change the behavior, the friendship is doing you no good. Another possibility if you find that she is pleasant to you in person but nasty on social media is to tell her you are dropping her from them.
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