How do you deal with a friend who's great until you need support and then they're gone?

How do you deal with a friend who's great until you need support and then they're gone?
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Well, it’s kind of a difficult call. He’s sounds kind of insensitive, and I am very often quick to judge, but sometimes the trick to maintaining and nurturing friendships is to not ask more of a friend than they can give. Maybe this has just made it obvious that he shouldn’t be a “go to guy” for relationship problems. I’m sure he has other qualities and things he can offer you in a friendship. It’s up to you. This could just be one thing he’s not good at or he could just be a jerk. Time will tell.
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