How do I deal with a person who "bullys"?

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Are you sure your “friend” is really your friend if she is taking the other person’s side? This is going to be easier said than done, but I wouldn’t hang around your “friend” for now and I would just delete my facebook account. You CAN live without facebook. You can’t be bullied by someone if you are not near them and if you don’t read the hurtful things they say about you.

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