Can I talk to you all about an issue that's near and dear to me and look for some thoughts or advice?

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First of all a big hug @jca! So hard to go through. In terms of the question I sense you’re asking which is how to handle it with your daughter, I think 9 is not too young for her to recognize her own needs. She may want to spend a lot of time with her Nana even if it is upsetting her. You can help her most by giving her space to express and satisfy her own needs and sadness.

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