Not that I disagree with your premise. But I think the idea with really little kids is to get them engaged in the activity first, and if you discover they like it, and are good at it, then you can start transitioning into the realm of competition. I think it is peculiar when they NEVER get the message that victory is a meaningless reward, and losers are, well, losers. On the other hand, we are supposed to act out all sorts of ways, regardless of what we truly think.