When is the best time for a woman to have a baby? before or after college?

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Before college?! You mean people actually say that a woman should start a family, then after that juggle her time between her husband, baby and studying? Why not finish your studying so that you can focus more time on your family? Or wait, I think I’ve got a better idea. Why not start a family after college and after you get a job? That way you have a secure income and more life experience to support your family. In my opinion, formal education is never a waste. It’s education. The skills you’ve been taught and the knowledge that you’ve gained will help in many other ways, and you won’t find yourself at a disadvantage if you do decide to pursue a job later on in life (assuming the woman wants to be a stay-at-home mom).

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