answer:I don’t like at all when my husband does or says something that makes him seem unsupportive or condescending to me in front of others. What bothers me most, is he is a wonderful man, and it is almost like he is more sarcastic in front of others, than in private with me. As a woman, I think we, or I will talk for myself; I, feel awful if I am perceived as tolerating an asshole SO. So often we see women who stay with abusive men, and I would hate for anyone to think my relationship is abusive, or that I would put up with that crap. For the most part peole tell me how wonderful my relationship is with my husband, so I guess this comes through, I guess I am just overly sensitive to it. As far as watching others. If two people bicker a lot, but that is just their schtick, and it seems even back and forth, I am not uncomfortable. If anyone seems actually very angry, or that one is trying to demonstrate pwer or control over the other person it can be uncomfortable.